Cover of Three Circles by Oliver Mindwell

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Friends, family, partners · A Pattern Weaver guide

Three Circles
How to keep the people you love when your mind keeps moving.

A way to sort the people in your life into three circles, so that none of them has to be everything.

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What is actually in it

12 chapters, 29 pages.

Introduction: The drive home.

  1. The moving baseline
  2. Friends: proximity and its limits
  3. Family: the role you were given at twelve
  4. Partners: growing in the same room
  5. The one mistake
  6. Circle one: the Heart Circle
  7. Circle two: the Mind Circle
  8. Circle three: Bridge Rituals
  9. Making friends after thirty
  10. Common objections
  11. A thirty-day plan
  12. Scripts

Conclusion: You kept walking. Then the Sources chapter, where every source named in the book is listed with a link, and a short note on the author.

The tools

Three tools, and the worksheets to run them.

The Heart Circle

The people who get your whole self and never had to earn it. Smaller than you think, and not graded on whether they follow your interests.

The Mind Circle

The people who can meet the part of you that keeps moving. A chapter on finding one when you currently have none.

Bridge Rituals

The small repeated things that keep an old friendship alive when the two of you no longer have the same week.

Sources

5 sources, every one a working link. Where a finding has limits or has been revised, the book says so. Not all of them are journal papers, and the chapter says which is which.

The first page

Read the opening before you pay for the rest.

You used to talk with your oldest friend for hours. Now, ten minutes in, you notice yourself translating. Simplifying. Holding back the thing you actually want to say, because you already know how it will land. From the video this guide was written for

You have spent an evening with people you love. An old friend, your parents, a sibling, a partner's family. Everyone was kind. The food was good. You laughed at the right moments. And on the drive home you feel, in a way you would not say out loud, completely alone. Not because anyone hurt you. Because for three hours you said almost nothing that was true, and nobody noticed.

If you have a mind that keeps moving, one that learns a new field every year and is changed by it, you have made that drive many times. You have probably concluded, privately, that something is wrong with you. Too intense, too restless, unable to simply enjoy people. Or you have concluded, more privately still, that something is wrong with them.

That is the opening of 29 pages.

Before you buy

The questions worth asking.

Is this just the video in writing?

Partly, and here is exactly which part. The three tools are the same three tools, because they work. What the video does not have: the worksheets for all three, the full research with every source linked, a worksheet for sorting the people in your life, scripts for the conversations with family and partners, and a thirty day plan, and the questions there was no room for. If you only wanted the three tools, you already have them, free.

How long is it, really?

29 pages at 6 by 9 inches, about 5,000 words, 12 chapters plus an introduction and a conclusion. It is a short book and it is priced like one. It is not a 300 page business book and it does not pretend to be.

What do I get, and how?

One PDF. The download link appears on the confirmation page the moment the payment clears, and the same link is emailed to you with your invoice. No account, no app, nothing to install. The link does not expire, and if you lose the email you can have it sent again.

Can I print the worksheets?

Yes. The pages are laid out at 6 by 9 inches. The parts you fill in sit inside the chapters they belong to, so you can print just those pages, or the whole book.

Are the sources real, and can I check them?

Every source is named and linked in the Sources chapter, 5 of them in this one, and the links were checked when the book was built. Not all of them are journal papers: some are reference pages, talks, or news write ups of a study, and the chapter says which is which. Where a finding has limits or has been revised, the book says so rather than quoting the headline.

Something went wrong: the file will not open, or I was charged twice.

Reply to the email your invoice came in and it gets fixed, with a fresh link or by refunding a duplicate charge. To be straight with you, that is not a change of mind refund policy. Because the file is delivered the instant you pay, and you confirm that at checkout, the 14 day right of withdrawal does not apply. This is us fixing our own mistakes, which is a different thing.

You kept walking.

29 pages, three tools, 5 linked sources. One file, yours to keep.

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